coaching support for male survivors of childhood sexual abuse
Carry Less.
Live Free!
The childhood sexual abuse was not your fault.
The healing is your responsibility.
Trauma-informed coaching that helps men rebuild from the inside out. No quick fixes. No endless processing. Just a path that respects your pace.
Safety before depth.
structure before overwhelm.
Change at your pace.
Coach Thomas Edward, CPC, ELI-MP, ACC, MHN
Male Survivor Resiliency Coach
A male survivor resiliency coach combining lived experience, neuroscience, emotional intelligence, and trauma-informed strategies to help men move beyond survival mode and rebuild from the inside out.
For more than two decades, I have worked with survivors seeking to reduce shame, strengthen relationships, regulate their nervous systems, and create lives no longer defined by what happened to them, but by the motivation, purpose, and self-determination they have discovered to build fulfilling lives, families, and businesses they truly desire.
Certified Professional Coach • Energy Leadership Index Master Practitioner • Trauma Health Navigator • Former 1in6 Board Member, Certified Hypnotherapist.
Coping Mechanisms. → Emotional Effects → Trauma in Body → Relationships
How The Process Works
1. Start with the Life By Your Design
Begin with Life By Your Design, a two-week resiliency coaching experience designed to help you explore the work firsthand and determine whether it is the right fit for your recovery journey.
2. Build Capacity and Clarity
Life By Your Design helps you build the capacity to stay present with difficult thoughts, emotions, and body sensations without becoming overwhelmed or shutting down. As your capacity grows, so does your clarity about yourself, your patterns, and the changes you want to make.
3. Apply for Full Program
Once you have experienced the process and developed greater capacity and clarity, you can apply for the full Break My Abuse Code program and begin a deeper, more comprehensive recovery journey with individualized and group support.
Male Survivors You're Part of Something Bigger
“I was 58 years old and honestly believed this was just who I was. Angry. Numb. Disconnected. I had accepted that surviving was the best life would ever get. OMG was I wrong.”
— Rick
“I flew from New Zealand looking for answers after years of carrying things I couldn't explain. For the first time, I understood what was happening to me and what I could do about it.”
— D. Wilcox
“For years I felt trapped in compulsive, self-destructive behaviors that no amount of willpower seemed able to change. Today I'm married, present, and living a life I once thought was out of reach.” - Jamal
“I've spent thousands on therapy, books, workshops, and self-help. Nothing ever seemed to stick. This was the first place I felt understood as a male survivor, not just treated as another diagnosis.”
— David
The Six Most Common Questions Asked by Male Survivors
1. Was what happened to me really abuse?
Many men downplay what happened because of shame, confusion, a physical response during the abuse, or
not wanting to seem weak. None of that changes the reality. Abuse is abuse.
2. Why didn't I fight back or stop it?
Most boys go into freeze, a survival reflex that shuts the body down when escape is impossible. Freeze is not
weakness. It is biology
3. Why do I feel shame when I was the one who was harmed?
Shame is the most common aftermath. Survivors often believe they caused it, should have stopped it, or
should have acted differently. None of that is true.
4. Why do I pull away when my partner gets close?
Closeness can activate old wounds of betrayal, manipulation, or powerlessness, and the nervous system
confuses safety with threat. It is old wiring, not a lack of love.
5. Why am I afraid my partner will leave me?
Abuse creates attachment insecurity. Survivors often expect abandonment because they were not emotionally
protected as children.
6. Can male survivors truly heal?
Yes. Healing means reducing shame, reclaiming identity, regulating the nervous system, and building
healthier connection. You do not erase the past. You transform its impact.
7. Want to read all 51 FAQs: See the FAQ Page
And you wonder if you've waited too long. You haven't. Start Now!
Research shows many survivors wait decades before disclosing childhood sexual abuse.
