About

I intimately understand the depths of CPTSD (complex post traumatic stress dysfunction) from childhood sexual abuse--because I lived through it.  Imagine growing up in a world where the family picture-perfect exterior hides unimaginable pain.  From age to late teens, I was sexually abuse, passed around like leftovers, caught in a cycle I couldn't comprehend and the only one unaware of the cruel reality shaping my future life. 

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As an adult, I appeared to have it all- working for the world's top software companies, but inside I was crumbling.  Anxiety, struggles with relationships, flashbacks, and depression to name a few.  Suicidal ideations became a part of normal life.  A therapist once explained that my ACE (adverse childhood experiences) wer off the charts and nearly impossible to address. 

At the time, society refused to acknowledge that men-especially black men could be victims of sexual abuse.  The stigma was isolating.  Many therapists lacked the tools to help someone with my experiences.  So I embarked on a journey to find integrative modalities to heal. 

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I immersed myself in every resource I could find and afford, from studying psychology and counseling in graduate school, to earning certifications in breakthrough coaching, herbal science degree, licensed massage therapy with emphasis on trauma touch, leadership development, neuroscience and hypnotherapy.  I even traveled to China to study with the monks at Shaolin temple.  Every step was a part of a relentless pursuit to overcome the effects the trauma and reclaim life.

My mother taught me the importance of service, and I knew I could not keep what I learned for myself.  In 2001, I began leading workshops, retreats and conferences for male survivors.  I produced a radio show, podcasts, to amply their voices.  I served on boards (1in6.org) and learned from some of the world's leading trauma psychologists.  

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Over time, I discovered that my unique combination of lived experience, education and empathy allowed me to connect deeply with other survivors.  The men I worked with began experiencing accelerated healing through my programs.  

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Today, my mission is clear: to create safe transformative spaces where men can heal, reclaim their voices, and build fulfilling authentic lives.